Communication is the key to building a healthy relationship and wrong communication can destroy all what has been built. Being sincere and open with your boyfriend is recommended but there is an extent to which you can be open. Not to forget that men are known for their unpredictable ego and anger issues, a harmless statement about somethings might just provoke him or prick his ego so bad that it could lead to a break up or a wounded relationship. This is why you should never mention the things on this list to a boyfriend – current or intending.
1. That You Think His Ex Girlfriend Is A Bitch
No matter how much you know about your boyfriend’s ex, or whatever opinion you have about how bad she treated him, it would be a mistake to reveal how you feel about her to him. Any negative comment about a man’s ex, however accurate, is bound to be construed as jealousy or petty talk. So feel free to say all the trash you want to say about her while you’re with your friends, but don’t let it get to the ears of your man, as that will diminish his love for you.
2. That You Think Your Girlfriends Are Really Hot
It’s never a bad idea to appreciate the hot legs, big bust and wide waist of your girlfriends, but once you mention to your boyfriend that you think one of your closest girlfriends is especially good-looking or that you suspect she’d be great in bed, you open the floodgates of his imagination. You practically invite him to beg you for a threesome or better still give him the opportunity to start imagining her in bed. Unless you want your man to cheat on you with your bestie, keep your thoughts about her sexiness to yourself.
3. That You Hate Your Body
Most ladies do not feel comfortable in their own skins and would want to do something to improve their body if given the opportunity. But when you constantly talk to your boyfriend about how you hate a certain aspect of your face or body, you accomplish two things: You draw your boyfriend’s attention to your physical flaws, and you poison yourself with toxic thoughts. You can make fun of yourself in a subtle way, but don’t make him see you as imperfect and not confident of your own body.
4. That Some Other Guy is Really Good In Bed
Women like to talk about sex, especially oral sex and who’s good at it. When someone on your mental list of “best sex ever” comes up in a conversation, try not to mention the fact that he gave you the time of your life. That will create an atmosphere of awkwardness and will make your boyfriend think he ain’t giving it to you like he should. Don’t make him feel there is a sex record from the past that he has to break. As long as you are with him, he is the best.
5. That His Best Friend Has A Small Penis
No man will be happy to hear this, as it exposes the fact that you slept with his friend and is making fun of his manhood. If you happen to be privy to information regarding the penis size of any of your boyfriend’s closest male friends – either through hooking up with them yourself, or knowing someone who has, try to keep it to yourself. You don’t want to deliver the message that will make your boyfriend feel awkward in his buddy’s company because he’s sure to resent you for it. It’s smarter to let a man hold onto the dream that everyone he likes and admires is sufficiently well endowed up and down there.
6. That You See His Dad In Him
90% of guys do not want to be like their father, no matter how wealthy he is. Growing up and seeing some of his flaws usually inspires sons to want to be better than their fathers. So you coming up with that line, thinking it’s a compliment might just piss him off all day. Even if you try to frame your appreciation of his old man’s looks as a compliment by adding that your boyfriend and his dad are built similarly, you’re bound to trigger some unwelcome thoughts that might lead him to resent you.
7. That You Have a Secret Cash Somewhere
It feels good to be rich and act otherwise, it helps to find out who your true friends are but then it’s risky. If this is your case, telling your boyfriend about your healthy financial status later in your relationship might arouse feelings of insincerity and distrust. It even gets worse if yours is the case of you hiding a few nairas at the back of your underwear drawer or rolled under the rug. Not that it’s a bad idea to do that, it’s a bad idea to share such things with your boyfriend. The point of a squirrel fund is that you and you alone should know about its existence.
8. That You’re Not Really The Romantic Type
Even if you are not really the romantic type, he should not be hearing about that from you. The problem is that the things you don’t want now have a way of transforming into things you might kind of like down the line. So don’t pigeon-hole yourself into being above a dash of romance. You’re better off reserving the right to demand a nice romantic night out once in while, and preventing your man from the dangers of feeling comfortably lazy.
9. That You Flirt With Your Superiors At Work
We have a lot of double standards when it comes to what’s acceptable for men and women from a sexual standpoint. We celebrate men who go to extreme lengths and/or behave indecently as long as they do so in the name of providing for their families. Meanwhile, we demonize women who are willing to use their sexuality to get ahead in the workplace. So if you’re someone who believes its her right to nurture a professional flirtation for the sake of advancing her career objectives, keep it to yourself. Neither you nor your boyfriend will benefit from an honest discussion on this topic. BE WISE.
10. That You’ve Been Doing NOTHING All Day
When he calls to check up on you and asks what you are up to when you’ve been doing nothing all day, just look for the best reasonable answer to give aside “NOTHING.” A vague reply such as “a lot” or “one or two things” is always preferable to sounding like a fool. No man wants to hang out with a potato couch or a lazy woman. And better find something to do so the next time he asks that question you will have a real answer to give.
11. That You’re Laughing at Him
Once in a while, your boyfriend will do something unintentionally hilarious in a moment when he’s not in a “funny mood” on account of being stressed out or in a rush. He might trip on the sidewalk in spite of your warnings about the hazards of texting while walking, or accidentally pour milk into his water glass instead of his coffee mug. In these situations, it can be really hard to resist laughing out loud but avoid confessing that you’re laughing at him. Instead, you can claim that you just remembered a funny Tweet from yesterday or say “I’m not laughing at you, just laughing at the funny scenario.”
12. That He Is Not A Gentleman
Most Nigerian men do not believe in chivalry so complaining to your boyfriend that he doesn’t hold open the door for you or doesn’t treat you like a lady will only make him wonder what planet you are from. What’s not to like about a well-mannered guy? But when yours ain’t that mannered, do not put it all on his face, slowly make him understand why he should do what courtesy demands rather than condemn his gentleman-ism.
13. That You’ve Had Several Abortions
Nigerian ladies are wise enough to know that this is a no sharing detail about oneself. Since guys don’t have vaginas or wombs or the ability to spend nine months transforming a sack of cells into a human baby, they’re not all that well equipped to grasp how a woman might feel when impregnated, or what factors inform her decision to terminate an unwanted pregnancy. So if you can avoid telling him about it you might as well spare a guy from trying to understand your abortion history. And then don’t give him a reason to paint you black as he might think your past might make you barren in the future.
14. That You’ve Been Proposed To Already
If you have any desire whatsoever to marry your current boyfriend, don’t tell him about any official or unofficial proposals you’ve had in the past, except he insists to know. You might think it makes you look desirable to mention that your ex once gave you a ring, not knowing you’re actually diminishing your boyfriend’s power to stage the same event and possibly robbing yourself of another engagement offer.
15. That You Hate Your Ex
Maybe your ex broke your heart or humiliated you or committed some awful relationship crime and you regularly talk about your hurt in front of your boyfriend, you have to stop now. Whatever you do, keep your vengeful dreams and hateful thoughts to yourself. It doesn’t matter how terribly things ended with that last guy. It’s never wise to tell your current partner that you hate your ex because hate is an indication of strong feelings and lingering passion. Hate isn’t the opposite of love, after all, it just means if peradventure things does not work out for you two, he will end up on your HATE list.